How many men on here are single??

When you least expect it is as true a statement as can be!!!! I met three girls at once about ten years ago. Vicky, Michelle, and Meredith. Vicky and Michelle had bodies like Greek statues. They looked like the kinda girls I wanted hanging on me for all to see. Meredith wasn't as shapely, but she thought my corny sense of humor was funny. So started the transition from just wanting some fine chick to sleep with, to wanting wife material. Same time I was discovering God too, so that helped. Me and Meredith just celebrated our eighth aniversery!!! We've had our moments, but never looked back. She's a great wife and excellent mommy!!! How'd we meet? A friend of a friend sent me to her for title work as she was a notary. Then one day it hits you like BAM! And you see all you'll ever want and need. So some of you guys/gals think its not coming eh? Half of you probably allready know your true love. You just don't realize it yet.

 

I think your falling under the category of "She must have a guy". If I saw you, especially at a cruise with that GS, I'd assume you were taken. A lot of folks think that way. A lot of car guys and gals don't wear their wedding rings cause of the hazards they would cause working on the cars. So checking for rings is a little invalid in that atmosphere. Just my $0.2. :grin:

 

So are you saying they were missing their arms?!!? Most Greek statues I've seen have no arms, sometimes no head. So that would make it hard for them to hang on you, Good move picking Meredith :Brow: j/k

I totally agree with you. When your not looking they come along. You might already know them. I have two friends that would be great for each other, but I'm not sure they are on the same page in life right now. Time will tell I guess.

 

Yeah, but again all she/he can do is say "sorry I'm taken"

 

Was just going to post that.....Hey Danie', did that pic work?

 

No, sorry I couldn't get it to work. I did put it on the cover of the calendar. Maybe next year we can get to to pose next to it and we'll put it in the "Buick Women" calendar.

 

Darn computers :rant: But thanks so much for trying it!! I'm still in for a calendar or 2, can't wait to see them! I'll start practicing my poses now....
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Here's my four cents ......

Meeting people of the opposite gender is game (of sorts), and you have to think of it that way to win. Likewise, you are "selling" yourself in a certain sense - both your appearance and personality. When you combine those two thoughts, find a way to make meeting people into a game, where you sell yourself, and have Fun while doing it !!!

Selling of any kind requires that you accept rejection - its a Fact that you are not going to "sell" to everyone you meet (If this were true, every Door-to-door Vacuum salesman would be a billionaire)....more likely you are going to sell to a very small percentage of those you approach.

You must accept rejection and move on. Use it....and let it motivate you. You have to realize that they are not rejecting you - How can they ??!!?? They don't even know you !! They are merely rejecting what you are selling.....or how you are selling it.

When you say "No Thanks" to the waitress who asks to refill your coffee cup - do you think she goes home crying "They HATE ME !!! They Dont want my Coffee" - that ridiculous !!!

You have to make what I call "First Contact". You have to crawl out of your protective shell, exert yourself and put it on the line - but that sounds Horrible !!! So....Make it into a Game. Everyone loves Games, right ??

One such game I made up was this - My Goal for the nite was to have 10 women reject me (Without being openly rude :grin: - that cheating) . By setting this as a goal, it was forcing me to make an effort at least 10 times. One of the major problems i realized, was some nites I wasn't even approaching 1 woman !!! . If 10 is easy....try 20 !!If you are anything but Shrek, I can almost guarantee that you won't get to 20 before you find youself engaged in a nice conversation.

Speaking of Goals....what is the goal of meeting someone ?? Set this goal fairly low....like just talking with them for 5 minutes. Thats it....just 5 minutes. See how long you can go without asking their name or telling them yours. Avoid occupation....where you are from....Avoid the obvious - its what everyone does !! Be Aluring....Be Different......we are afterall - we love BUICKS !!

When 5 minutes is up, say "I have to run but I'll be back if thats OK ?" Thats an easy "Out" for you and them.....but its also an "In" if they say "Yes" and you are still interested. You can always come back.

Next...Next...Next....Flipping stones....you have to flip alot of stones to find the gems hiding underneth. Think of this as a type of sorting process - It YOU sorting out who the possibilites are....not them deterniming it by rejecting you.

If you walk around with a wedding ring in your pocket and say "Hi, Im Fred....wanna get married ???" and whip out the ring, you're gonna see burnout marks from her shoes going directy away from you---->

.....Then again, it may be a fun "Game" to try !! Buy a dime store ring, walk around and say "This fell out of the Sky today.....and Im taking it as a sign from the stars - will you try it on ??" As silly and stupid as it sounds - You made contact !!! Ask 10 Women......I Dare you.....

What people really find hard is "Ok.....I made first contact.....no what ??"

My favorite was to ask them if they want to play a game !! I called it "Do You Like......" You ask a question....they answer....then they ask a question and you answer. One of the keys here is to generally try to get a "Yes" answer. Choose silly stuff (Do you like Lucky Charms cereal)....romantic stuff (Do you like Rainbows after a rain storm) - whatever you can think of thats not ordinary. Play this long enough so you have some topics of conversation for later.....but not too long that it gets boring.

I never was a "Dating Machine". I always felt akward introducing myself....and I feared rejection. I never liked "Small talk". I do however know Im a decent person, Im Funny....and once people know me - most appreciate me for who I am. I realized I didn't like playing the prescribed "Dating Game" so I invented my own !!

 

Okay, if you get the Build Sheet, you've seen a pic. of me. It was taken at the Texas Buick Bash this spring after my "eventful" runs down the track. :af: Second is me in front of a WOODY!!! :Brow:

I don't want anyone to get me wrong, I am seeing someone and am not technically single. Just undecided about my course of action at the moment. Also wondering how in the world does anyone find the right person?

As far as "selling", that's what scares me. I don't sell myself. Shouldn't have to because I want people to like me for me, not what I'm selling about myself. That's what I'd like to see in a man too. I don't want to see the best selling points upfront and then have it go downhill from there. I don't want to go out and play a game of meeting people or have goals on how to do it. I just want to go about my daily routine being me. :TU:

Let me know if I can be in the calendar so I don't overeat during the holidays!!!

What's an Imao??? o No:

 

I like the long hair Dee! Betcha have to tie it up to drive with the top down.

 

Ok, now we have pics! I can see who she is. Was she in the first pic titled me.jpg???? All I saw was a GS conv!!!!! Hold on......................ahhhhhhhh........yessssssss.......there is a woman in the pic! Have to take of my GS glasses to see other items in the pic! Sheesh! Maybe I need to get some non-GS glasses????? :laugh:

 

BPG Matchmakers... possibly a new forum?

Wanted: woman who can drive a tractor/bulldozer or a pleasure boat. Work hard, play hard. Clear fields, go fishing. That sort of thing. Doesn't mind a 4WD to go to the store shopping. Or a 30 year old muscle car for cruising.

 

Mike,
Don't forget, big bonus if she owns a bass boat! LOL! Please send pics of.............................the bass boat!

 

Oh, Mike, I know of a woman for you. Gretchen Wilson, she sings redneck woman! I know you will love her! :laugh:

 

That's my friend Rachel..... Not sure if she'll do the fishing thing,but she'll ride a dirt bike!

Ok Dee, I see your problem.... your to pretty! Guys are afraid of that. More so if the woman is independent. Play the supid blonde roll once in a while and they will be flocking to you. No I'm kidding don't do that, it has to many down falls.

Hey,can I play the rejection game!! I just would like to mess with the guys mind. You know payback for all those guys in high school that thought I wasn't good enough for them :Brow:

lmao.... laughing my a.. off

Oh, don't pig out to much over the holidays, you have a calendar to be in:TU:

 

Who is Rachel.. Hmmm I can teach her fishing.

If she's a farm girl, lets get out the bulldozer, build the trails for ATVs or bikes, or whatever. The land is 1/2 mile on one side. I was wondering if that's long enough for a 1/4 mile drag strip lane or two. Some creek work to do (a bridge), and bull dozing. to take out trees and flatten it out.. LOL

 

That Danie...

THAT DANIE...IF SHE HAD ABOUT 300 SISTERS THIS THREAD WOULD NOT BE :Brow:

 

... at the risk or really getting myself in trouble...

I haven't gotten myself in trouble with a woman for a while, so what the heck.. let me give you some cold, hard advice, since I am prolly the type of guy you are after. It won't be warm and fuzzy, but try and accept it in the spirit it's given.. for you own good.. don't kill the messenger.

Welp... that's an interesting statement, I have been casually reading this thread, and thought for sure you were spending Sat nights watching TV. Seems to me that since your even talking about this, the relationship you have now is dead, but nobody has buried the body yet.

Life is short, don't waste it. While your out marking time with Mr. Wrong, it's pretty tough to find Mr. Right. He may just wonder across your path, but you may have to go looking. And you to have to be available. The first thing I do when I am out, and see a girl I am interested in, but then see some dude with her, is look the other way. I don't need the drama.. outgrew that in my early twenties, and that was a few moons ago. So unless that person crosses my path again, I prolly will never meet her. But.. for all I know, that could have been her brother. But that's ok, I have always subscribed to the "plenty of fish in the sea" philosophy. Lots of guys I know think the same way.

Oh.. I think you have decided, maybe a while ago. Just maybe you are trying to talk yourself out of it. Stick with your instincts, you seem to be pretty intelligent, so listen to that "little voice". Even if it means you end up watching TV on Sat night for a while. You will end up being a better "catch" when that one guy does come along, since you have figured out how to be happy by yourself, or at least to endure it.. dependance on someone else for your happiness is an almost sure way to end up heartbroken. And the smart, funny, "together" guy your after can smell that dependance issue a mile away, and it's not attractive. The idiots among us may not mind it, but it sounds to me like you have had your fill of them.

I have always believed it's more about being able to identify the "wrong" person. I bet there are thousands of "right" guys for you, but until you can quickly weed out the good from the bad, and act on that decision, then you spend too much of your time with the wrong guy, while half a dozen right ones pass thru your life unnoticed.

That's a pretty solid train of thought. But, there is something to be said for "making an effort". Every guy I know wants his lady to occasionally make the effort to be the a little something special once in a while. So, while your correct in thinking that you want to just be yourself, you also want to make sure your putting your best foot forward at times, when it's appropriate. Nothing wrong with shining up the chrome now and then, for an outing. I see a lot of girls out, who look like they are going grocery shopping, and also see a lot of girls in the grocery store, who look like they are on the way to the bar. Those folks haven't quite figured it out.



But most of all, relax... often times, the harder you look, the more stressed you get, and the less likely it will be that your going to find what you looking for. I do this all the time in the shop here... can't find something, but I know it's here, so I just go on with something else, and presto..there it is..

That's always worked with women too.. at least in my case. But then again, I have always made the effort to look good when I wanted to meet someone, and made sure I was available. The way my life is now, I don't get the chance to do that very often, but just recently an experience made me realize that the way I had delt with dating still was working for me.. I made an effort, was available, and was, um... er.. "rewarded" for it..

But that's another story.. :Brow:


JW

 

I married a great girl and we have three wonderful kids-- a 16 year old and 14 year old twins. We have been divorced for 12 years.

We had almost everything in common when we met and married-- and then she changed completely after the kids were born. The problem is I am the same partier I always was, (and she was too). Not to any detrimental extent, mind you... she got older acting and I still feel like I'm 25.

Weird.

Frank