Sitting in my driveway puts me right across from a high school. There's certain to be a few single teachers around. :laugh: :laugh: Problem - I usually work 8:00 to 4:30 or I'm on the road, so rarely see any school staff. o No: I feel a sick day coming on, cough, cough, aaaachooooo. Ah the heck with it, somebody's likely to get the wrong impression, call police, then they'll make me get rid of my Buicks. :af: BTW: I REALLY have better things to do than sit in my driveway. :Brow:
Practice makes perfect... just have a good time. Your already ahead of yourself there, sweetheart.. It's just a date, and a first one from the sounds of it, no big deal.. no need to analyze it too much.. Women... ou: :laugh: Who can say what attracts folks, and I know a few couples who have tons in common, who are miserable or divorced.. and then there is my folks.. they do very little together, and have been married for 40 years.. Although the cat lover part about that guy does worry me... p
Rachel J. or "Dannie's mini-me", Is this a first date?? I don't particularly care for the "group setting" for a first date, too many distractions. It's like people who go to the movies for a first date.... ou: you sit there for 2 hours and DON'T say anything! How are you supposed to get to know someone if you can't talk?? o No: Keep in mind that he's probably just as concerned as you are. Any guy who says he's not a bit nervous before a first date is full of it. Just do what comes naturally and don't worry about saying the wrong thing or what you're going to wear. I'm sure Dannie will give you some fashion tips when the time is right...maybe you should wear her Halloween costume?? :Brow: KIDDING!!! No, seriously, first dates are a pain in the butt, almost like a job interview but in order to have a second date, you have to go on the first one.... You want some good advice?? DON'T have too much to drink....that could be a disaster....TRUST ME!!!
Rachel, it is weird on the group thing. it's one thing if your bringing your own group but one on a group... eek.. freaks me out as well. dating is a pain in the butt. I'm kinda sorta dating this girl now although i think it's coming to a quick end. I think it's heading in the right direction and then seems pretty mutual then she slams the brakes on. who knows whats up with that. it sure is easier being single. too bad it's nice sharing things with someone close though. for rachel and adam, the girl im mentioning above i met thru that Myspace. it was the random person whos friend had a band out in madison. so we both carpooled. neither of us ever met eachother before and seems to hit it off really well though untill recently. nate
I don't think the group thing is to bad of an ideal, but you can't out number each other. Like it shouldn't be all of his friends or the other way around. That's a lot to take on. I think Rach should tell this guy he wants to go on a date and have Rod and I come along. We can slowly pick him apart and find out all his downfalls. If he makes it through the night without crying he's good to go o No:
Nate, did you get my request on myspace? EDIT: Nevermind..I found you. Rachel, are you on that website as well?
Yeah, when we go out I'm the one asking Rach for fashion tips. Plus, she has her own costume, she's even got hair extentions!!! I just have a short skirt
I agree, to me it's kinda weird having the first date with him and all his buddies....But ya never know, if you don't like him, you have a few others to choose from to try and get to know! :Brow: Is tempting to have a few too many drinks to help with the nervousness but is probably best to keep it to a minimum :beer
Rachel, First off, it sounds like you are more worried about what he will think of you, than what you will think about HIM. It sounds arrogant, but you have to determine if this guy is worthy of YOUR time, if he deserves to be in your space, if he's up to your standards. There's barely enough time in life for those people you WANT to be with, and there's nothing worse than wasting that time with someone you don't/won't like. I agree with all, that you should have some of your friends in the group. Or at least have Rod & Danie come to the same bar separately and then they would be there in case you wanted a way to duck out of the date. You'd have the "hey, there are my friends", a way to get home in case you don't drive yourself (which I would recommend), and if your date ends early, the 3 of you can go out and tear up the town so the evening isn't wasted. One tip, you probably already know, but a good reminder - never drink anything that you didn't see the waitress set in front of you. Don't let your drink (alcohol or not) out of your sight, never drink anything that shows up on the table while you were gone to the bathroom, dancing, etc. That way you avoid the threat of anyone slipping you something - be it drugs or alcohol. Anyway, here is the way to change your mindset that helps avoid the nervousness. I look at it as story gathering. Every date is an adventure, and my friends have come to expect a tall tale or funny anecdote afterwards. And if you 'watch' the date from a bit more objective point of view, there's usually something worth storytelling, whether it's something you did or the date said, did. Plus, since I've been dating a bunch of different people over the summer, my friends can't keep up with "John said..", I went out with Jim, etc - they'd always say, "which one is John? Who's Jim?" So I started giving them all aliases, usually to do with their job, or a personality quirk. Let's see - right now there's The Fireman, The Biker Guy aka The-Best-Looking-Man-That's-Ever-Been-In-My-House, and My Good Ol Boy from Alabama. Over the summer there was The Married Guy, Camaro Dude, Mustang Boy, The Dorky Guy with Girl Hands, and yes, even Man Boobs. My friends even ask me "Have you heard from Man Boobs lately?" It's very Seinfield-like, but it makes for great conversation and takes some of the edge off of the whole dating process.
I was a 'naughty nurse' for halloween, she can borrow the lab coat, er, I mean dress I wore, looked similar to your costume Danie' :laugh:
Well, now that you mentioned your costume and Rachel and I have posted a picture of ours. I feel it is only fair that you should have to post yours too.
Just got my friend to e-mail me a picture of halloween, now I'm gonna have to figure out how to put it on this thing....you know how I am with pictures Danie' :laugh:
This would be the "don't name names rule." I had a roomate after college supposedly dating three girls in two states. He drove me nutts talking about these girls. I had my band and a 60 hour work week. I could have cared less about what was happening in his social life, let alone what girl he was going to win over next.
not only hair... I had a short shirt, too! I guess I really didn' think it was to bad having his friends along, but it is a good point that I could always talk to them if "Guy X" doesn't work. Annie- It's funny that you mention the nick-names! I used to do that all the time. example; The One that cried all the time, The Teacher, The One that broke up w/ me right before Valentines Day, Shaft, The Bible Thumper, Chuckles, and on and on.....
What about.....The Hairdresser, the Artist.........the girl kelsch stole the rubber rat from. True story that I'll have share one day, the rat is still in a mouse trap in the back of my BU-HOGG!! :TU: Sorry didn't want to hijack the thread. BTW about this weekend, at my freinds wedding. I had to many :beer , however I did hit on the hottest bridesmaid and was shut down, but I at least got major props from my boys for the attempt. Can't win, if you never play the game, and I still had one heck of a good time!:TU:
I knew a girl once, woke up at her place and couldn't find my underwear?!! o No: Started refering to her as the 'Underwear Gnome.' By the way, I am still not seeing anyone. That is, as long as I am taking my pills!! :laugh:
