I thought it was the girl that always started the clingy thing by saying "The Words" first. I've had the same problem with guys getting clingy and saying the I love you thing WAY too quick. If a guy says marriage, my head explodes!!! Let me out of there!!! :3gears: I feel better now too....
Too funny!! :laugh: I was filling Rod in on this tread the other day so he could understand what Rachel and I were talking about. He said "You girls are going to ruin everything with your match making thread, Next we'll be having dances at the track with the girls on one side and the guys on the other" He already thinks he the relationship gorue. Granted he has prodicted his best friends relationship to a T. before it even happens.
This is soooo true. Guys shower women with gifts & flowers at the begining to make them like them, well to also let the girl know that he is really interested in her. Thing is this is costly to keep up on and guys are lazy. They over do it, then it gets expected for the guy to continue to do this. If he stops the women feels as if he doesn't care anymore. Not true, the guy has just burned a hole in his pocket and doesn't feel he should have to show his care for a woman through gifts. I've told my little bothers not to do this and my little sister not to expect it, because it will be the biggest on going fight in a relationship. Same thing goes for the saying "I Love You" . My X use to think it was a game. I love you, no I love you more, No I do , No I love you x2,,, ok you win. I hated it. So many stupid fights because he said it one more time than me. No he wasn't a girlyman, but he did make me wonder sometimes, he was insecure and young. Aah, I ripped his heart out and stepped on it, then ran over it several times with my car. He cheated on me so in my eyes he asked for it. "I Love you" is something Rod and I have never said to each other.... going on 7 years now. Lots of people think that is wrong to go that long and not say it to each other. Love is not something you should have to say to the other, you show it. Rod knows I love him and I know he loves me. I'm not an insecure woman, I'm shy, but I know what I want and what I don't.
Sorry guys, don't have a pic of myself on a computer, will have to work on getting one, and no, not that hot, just an average chick......but I'm beginning to wonder if I have "if you're some clingy nutcase (make sure you hide the fact that you're a nutcase until a month or 2 into it), please step up and talk to me" sign on my forehead that only men can see........ As for the unwritten rule book on Audio/CD, PLEASE inform me where I can get a copy to pass out when I first meet a man, apparently they don't know it exists!!!! Jim, will tell pops hello for ya, was over his house the other day watching the Steelers stomp on my Brownies!! By the way, #1 is the clingy-ness, the 'I love you after a month syndrome'!! Geesh, some of them act like their world is going to end if I would prefer to stay home on a Saturday night (ALONE), snuggled up on the couch with a cup of coffee, catching up on my missed episodes of Cops and Trading Spaces.... Or if they don't get a return phone call right away, they assume something is wrong. Tell me guys that you haven't dated women who are the same way with those kinda things?? Doesn't it drive you nuts? Dee, read about your head exploding and couldn't help but laugh, I can relate!! :laugh:
A friend of mine and her man are the same way, the joke is they say they are 'fond of each other'.....I look at it, whatever works, the only 2 people's opinions that matter are you and Rod!
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Yeah, He's pretty good @ predicting Duh's situation, but no good @ setting people up. (only from my experinace. :ball: Still no luck.) o No:
Danie said it best I couldn't agree more. Saying "I love you" is an easy out. I always hated it when my ex would try to make me feel bad for trying to leave by saying" But I told you I loved you". Or it would also be used when my needs were ignored - and again-"I told you I loved you, isn't that enough?". From that point on, actualy it was when I met Rod and Danie, I realized I completely agreed that love is an action not a word. -Rachel
relationships have been a kind of round about thing for me. when i first started getting interested in girls i was also just getting into cars [and rock and roll, and taking risks]. as i grew older and -a little- more sophisticated, the women i found the most attractive were the ones that were the most challenging/interesting/risky. ALL of the women in my life have had some, if not all the same interests i have. i found all of them attractive. never ever really considered "pretty" girls due to most of the "pretty" girls were not very interesting. :sleep: i think the best person [relationship-wise or otherwise] is the one that is intelligent AND smart. you have to be able to talk to somebody, even if it is to say "good by". funny how some just dont ever get that. ou: by the way, i dont consider myself single, i am independent :moonu: and probably a little too old to be playing the hormone game...no matter how much fun it still is...
Way, way back near the beginning of this post, someone said that for a guy to be into cars was a turn off for most women. I couldn't agree more. Here I was with two outbuildings and my garage full of cars, two race car projects, and four restoration projects, two all out near frame offs. I felt like I had to make the extent to which I was into the car scene very clear, right up front. That was a big mistake. I would fail instantly, then tell myself that after just one more completed project, I will try again. So after two or three more projects(kept telling myself, after ONE more project), I would fail again. It took like 7 or 8 years to realize that it wasn't such a good idea to beat someone over the head with the car topic, just to "prepare" them. So I decided that I would merely say, " I mess with cars some..." After two years, I am still dating the first girl I tried that with. Now.. It hasn't been easy. At first she would throw a fit when I would disappear out into the shop. But she slowly accepted the fact that cars were a part of me. And she realized that she needed to persue her own hobby, and I was encouraging this. Now she has one. We are sort of approaching the situation that Doug Hecker mentioned. She does her thing, and I do my thing. Yet we both set time aside to do "our" thing, which may include her interest or mine, or one of our common ones. So anyway, now she's into horses- which is great for giving me more garage time, but not so good for the wallet. Plus, it looks like one of my buildings my be losing some car space.
Thanks Doug! Don't change anything about yourself either, you're one cool guy! Am looking forward to next year, will have to see how many people we can squeeze into Bruce's vehicle :Brow:
David...I think that is the secret to my 13 year relationship with my girlfriend Jennifer. She has her hobbies (which coincidentally are horses) and I have my Buicks. We dont spend all our time together. No matter how much you love someone, you need time away. Its important for the other half to persue a hobby. Although horses are more expensive than Buicks!
I'm shocked and I thought this was going to be another one of those "Desperately single Buick owner threads," and I'm laughing my a$$ off.....what a shocker. Post a pic of a hot chick and a Buick and you'll even smoke me out of my cave. I broke all the rules when it comes to dating, either knowingly or unknowingly. I'm a pro at getting shutdown and I love it. Maybe I should take this stuff more seriously..........No Way. Anyhow, I'm 28 and single......and keep writing the funny stuff I might be back to read more! :grin: BTW: Rod & Danie, It is still funny as all heck seeing your dog beg for Jim Ramsey's french fries at BPG Nats. Jim was completely puzzled on whose dog it was until he read its tag..."Whose Buddy is this??"
