Women are like racoons:Smarty: ............. Did you ever have a baby racoon? If so they are cute and cuddly and friendly when they are young right? Well when they get older they get MEAN! So do women:laugh: I got married at 30 and it's been 8 years...EIGHT LONG YEARS!!! Are you in a hurry to have kids? If not there's no reason to get married just yet.
I was just a few days short of my 31st birthday when my wife landed me. It took her 6 years to reel me in. That was almost 20 years ago and life has NEVER been so good but I realize she is a rare find. Doesn't have squat to do with your relationship but wanted to let you know some of us are very happy being married, even with 2 kids. Good Luck:beer
I was 31 and my wife 27 when we got married 3 years ago. We dated for 6 years before that. We get along great. I wouldn't change a thing if I had to do it over. :grin:
first wife we met at 19 (each), dated for 2yrs, married for 5 months... talk about a psyco switch:eek2: :eek2: Next wife... dated for 2 months in MI, moved to FL together, waited 4 months, got married (I was 25 she was 19). Still together 4yrs later and never looking back. Two kids and a wonderful life.
Always was afraid of commitment. Got married for the first time in 2002, I'm 44 now. No kid's, no plans for any! Things have been good. Craig
Too late to turn back now. Single WAS nice, BUT, 12 Years of marriage (and the promise "til DEATH, do you part", I NEVER break a promise!)...:TU: Reminds me of a joke: Statistically, do you know why men die before women do? Because they WANT to.:laugh::TU: I was 23, and she was 19. Looks like "most" of us here were "young", when we "tied the knot" (or Noose, for some:laugh: ).:bglasses: Not saying that we're "NOT" young, NOW.:laugh: Seriously, Marriage is a GREAT thing! You'll appreciate it more LATER, as you work TOGETHER to find out what it's all about! Your first home, Holidays, kids (when you're READY)... There is so much you will experience TOGETHER, and that's what makes it all "worth" it!:Smarty:
Always was afraid of commitment. Got married for the first time in 2002, I'm 44 now. No kid's, no plans for any! Things have been good. Craig
I'll have to show this thread to my g/f. Her friends are all either married or engaged at 20, and I think she feels pressured to do the same. I am 23, but nowhere near ready to be married or start a family. We haven't even been together a year and she has been pressuring me lately and it is starting to push me away. Plus I have seen a lot of the warning signs a lot of people say to look out for - not wanting you to buy more cars, electronics or other toys or just doesn't really enjoy your hobbies at all, etc. I just can't see getting married until I have a good deal of my goals accomplished, financially stable, house with big garage, Buick finished, cars paid off, etc. Right now I am not ready for that kind of commitment.
This might sound goofy but.... Make sure she knows that you had a CAR before you met her and you plan on having one while she's there! I have a couple of friends whose Wifes/Girlfriends make them get rid of their toys. I'm lucky that mine has no problems with my NEED for toys.:TU:
Yeah and racing too....a friend has a 72 Chevelle SS and a 67 Camaro conv and ever since he got married they only leave the garage a couple times a year. He used to race almost every weekend....now he is hardly "allowed" to work on them. She thinks there is must be something wrong with a car that one works on. Some people never understand that.....I've had neighbors come oner when I work on the race car and they ask what's wrong? I tell them "nothing" and they don't get it. My last girlfriend never understood......when she would call and ask what I was doing and I'd saw working on the car......she would say "I've never known anyone with so many car problems!" Just didn't get it......I'd tell her "it's not broken, I'm just making it better". Still, never got it.... Bruce
Pete, if you think you're too young, then you probably are. Believe me, I had NO PLANS on getting married when I met my (now) wife. I was 22 and she was 18. We went together for 5 years before we got married. She won me over by being my best friend. She was light years ahead of any girl I'd ever dated maturity wise. It's didn't take long before it became obvious we would be together forever. You know that feeling when it happens. It may not be this way for everybody, but to me, I knew it was the thing to do. We got married with me at 27 and my wife at 23. Some of the peaches and cream leaves the marriage over the years, but a marriage is a commitment of cooperation and hard work and if you both WANT it to work it WILL work. Just do yourself a favor and DON'T get married just because it feels like the "thing to do". That will do you nor your girlfriend any good whatsoever. Try to have somewhat of a game plan first, financially. Remember, there's no rush man. Plus, you've known your girlfriend since you were 16 years old if I did the math correctly and she was 13! Have you both TRULY sewn your wild oats yet to ensure you will not have other "desires"? If you are confident you have, great! :TU: Still no rush though. One thing I will add....the day of my marriage was the best day of my life. It paralleled (SP?) my childrens birth. Some people have second thoughts the whole way through it. In my opinion it's either because they are not ready, or they should not be doing it. But, again, that's just my "opinion". :Smarty: Good luck, whatever you decide. :beer
John, just be careful. Someone who really loves you for "you" will tend to enjoy your hobbies, not necessarily because "they" enjoy them, but because "you" enjoy them. I look at it this way, you aren't even married yet and she is trying to mold you into what "she" wants. Please don't do anything that I say here. I'm just sharing my version of wisdom with you since I've been around a bit longer and have seen MANY relationships fail due to any or all of the above. Divorce is an incredible hassle and if you have kids it is treacherous for them, it does damage that most of the time cannot be repaired.
This is starting to sound like a men's dear abbey column. My .02 is for you to do what you really want to do. If you are geting married because she or your family think you should, then don't. It isn't about making other people happy, it's about you and your wife as a partnership. You've gotta be into that 110% to make it work. Plenty of farts ahead for both of you and you'll be on your own to sort out the smelly stuff. If you're happy, go for it.
Very Good Advise... Got married at 36 and it's helped me to mellow nicely. Especially with (2) fine young boys...
