i was thinkin the other day about how young is too young to get married? im 22 and my girlfriend is 19. we've know each other for about 6 years now and dated in the past. then when i moved off to college, we kinda lost contact. then last summer we started going out again and we've lived together ever since. anyhow, we both are in love and see a future together. my family likes her and her family likes me. iv seriously given it some thought to asking. thing is i would like her to finish school first. and for some reason i think we're just too young. o No: also, id like to have our own place first. one of her friends lives with us when she moved out here i think her dad was a little worried about being her being distracted by me and not finish school. but then this weekend he asked her when we were getting married?!?!? so im a little mixed up now. any advise? pete
me too I got marrie when i was 22 as well, and my wife was 19. That was 1 1/2 ago... If you think you are too young then go with your gutt feeling. Dont do it because somebody is expecting you to do it, do it because you feel you are physically/mentally/ etc... READY. I personally though i was and so far i havent had any problems. At the time my wife was working and so was i, we where both ready so we did it, because it felt right. That's just my personal opinion, but i'm sure there's other's here more experience that can help with they're wisdom Maybe if you give your 350 away to me, you'll think more clearly :Brow: :laugh: HOpe everything goes well.
Ill be 24 years 10 feb and will be getting married on the 21st feb and on our way to Jamaica on the 22nd. We have 2 kids boy and girl, 1 and 3 years old. we have our own house and two cars, we have been together for 6 1/2 years now, shes in school parttime and I dont think things could get any better for us,, till I finish off my street rod ofcourse:Brow:
Married at 32, wife was 23. That was 10 years ago. No one can tell you and your girlfriend that it is right or wrong to get married at your ages. I think the fact that you've known each other for quite a long time is in your favor, if you do marry this young. I thought I was ready at 23, but things didn't work out and the marriage didn't happen. Looking back, I think I was ready for marriage, but would not have been ready to raise a family at that age. Kid(s) put a major crimp in your "allotted" free time...
no kids for us! seen too many bad kids. it would drive me nuts! jenny thinks the same. what are tax benifits to marrage? :grin: pete
You're joking, right? Actually, GW supposedly is rolling back the "marriage penalty" in income tax law, but I'm not sure what all actually made it thru congress.
I was 20 years and 9 days old, my wife was 20 years and 5 months and that was 21 years and 3 months ago.
Pete, Run for the hills! Seriously though- I was 21, almost 22. You would not believe how much people change through their 20's (I'm 28 now). I thought it wouldn't happen, but I was wrong! Believe it when they tell you that. If I knew then what I do now, I wouldn't have done it. I would have waited till about now (when I was 28). If she really loves you, she will wait.
Oh, and BTW, we had dated for 5 years, almost to the day, when we got married. It wasn't like I rushed into it. You really should get your own place if you're not going to marry her. Being that close doesn't leave a whole lot of options open once she starts putting the pressure on you (and she most likely will).
I was 22, she was 19 And she was a psycho in training. I'M SERIOUS!! Nobody believes that it can happen to them until it does. My opinion is that most people do not know THEMSELVES well enough to make a marriage committment in their early 20's, forget about knowing your "mate". Many psychological/emotional disorders don't begin to manifest themselves until the LATER 20's. Look VERY CAREFULLY at her family and the relationships she has with others. Unless she is perfect and they are the Walton's, I would tell you to go very slow. Like cool it for about 5 years. There. Now I can say "I told you do" later on........
1st time: I was 24, she was 20. That lasted 11 years. (2 years separated before we made it an official divorce,and parted on amiable terms.) This time around I was 37, she was 34. By the way, we are celebrating 5 years today. :beer
i was 42 (49 now) regret it at least once every day-sometimes for the whole day. everyone is different-but-i wouldnt consider it before 30. in my case, 42 was too young AND too old. we were both prety set in our ways and niether of us likes having to consider the others opinion. its a rough road for us and likely isnt gonna get any better. before i said i do i advised everyone against it and now that i did for 7 years, i still advise everyone against it.
First time, we were both 18.:spank: Second time, I was 23, Beth was 24. Got our house, then the 2 kids, 2 dogs, seven cars, etc! I'd say too young both times.....I recommend that everyone wait until 30 yrs minimum - you just change too much in your 20's I think. That being said, we've been together 23 years now, I've put up with a little crap, she's put up with a LOT of crap. It takes work no matter how great a match you are. I'd NEVER give up any of it only because my kids make everything worth it, and I don't think I'd find anyone who'd put up with me like my wife does! But boy.....think of the garage and the toys I'd have had I never gotten married!:laugh:
I was 26 and she was 22 , and we will be celebrating our 44th anniversary in April. Only you can know when it is right! If you are both ready to make a commitment,and WORK at it, you can have a great life. We have 6 children, soon to be 15 Grand children ,and 1 great grand child. We both give each other space, and it works out well. we do antique car things together, and I do the drag racing and street rod things by myself or with friends. She does her arts and crafts and ladie things with her friends ,and it works out great! o No: o No: o No: o No:
1st time I was 24, she was 22. ...didn't make it past 2.5 years. My opinion - too young - way too young! This time, I was (and still am) 34. She was 31 (now 32). It was her first. She was smart enough to wait until she was old enough to know better. If only I was that smart when I was younger. I also agree with the previous post regarding to look at the rest of the family. It provides a lot of insight.
NOT married....and don't plan on it for a while. I want to be able to breathe by myself for a part of my life. I will have a house to myself with a bigger than life garage and a couple Buicks parked in there to keep me busy. I'd like to be in Central CA near the bay area....or even in wine country. Oh, now I'm drooling:grin: Financial stability is my main goal. I want to be comfortable where I am before I dig deeper into a life I still don't have control over. Kids.....well, lets just say I don't have any plans. If she really wants them, then so be it. But my ideal life doesn't include them Sue meo No: :grin:
There might be a too young, but only you and your girl can say for sure. I was 19 and my wife was 17. We have two kids house with 2 cars motorcucle camper. Now I am 34 she is ----, woman never tell you how old they are, but we are happy and still in love. <a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/201.gif' border=0></a> <a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_1_28.gif' border=0></a>
Dan, I congratulate you on that! Of course had I been asked at the time I would have "said for sure." Then again I'd say that this time too.
