Hmm, I seems I'm in the wrong part of the country - it looks like you all have a lot of, er, fun. As for dates, zero this past year - though I do have a very close friend (nudge nudge, wink wink...).
Too Freakin Many!!!!! OK, it's 3:30 am and I just got home and I am in Stage 3 of Southern Comfort (I'll explain that later). Suffice it to say that this is going to sound like man-bashing, cause I am peeved right off, but it's not meant that way. I have been on a plethora of FIRST dates this year. Then nothing happens. NADA. ZERO. ZILCH. Except with the guys who are unavailable - one was married, but he would have kept dating me..... :af: Anyway, what brings me to this point - been emailing a guy for a couple weeks. HE asks me out. We went to dinner on Thursday night. Nothing spectacular, just decent. Well, just came home to find an email from him. "Gee, I had a nice time, but we live too far from one another and our jobs are too far apart, we aren't a good match". This is an obvious cop-out, as he knew where I lived and worked before he ever asked me out. :spank: WHY CAN'T YOU GUYS JUST BE HALF A$$ED HONEST??? Apparently, there is something wrong with me, or something I am doing wrong, or something that is driving them away - but how can I FIX it if no one will tell me what the heck it is????????? :rant: :rant: :rant: My evening out tonight wasn't the greatest either, but I had a good time with friends - all of whom hooked up, except ME. I wasn't expecting anything, or looking for anything - but for goodness sakes, the old drunk guy at the bar didn't even ask me to dance - but he asked all the rest?? OK, I'm not down on myself, just want to correct the problem but having one heck of a time defining what that is??? I am infinitely confused as to what the bejeezus you men WANT? :spank: :3gears: :rant: :af: :blast: :moonu: I'd just give up on all y'all, but you're just so darn fun!!
happy new year guys and gals stayed up with the honey until the ball droped and then got my old tired butt in bed and got up with the kids today let the wife sleep in once. uzzled: hope you all had a good evening and no one got hurt or charged with anything they can't laugh about later :bglasses: ou: best of luck in the new year to all Greg
Annie, I'd love to go out and then tell you what's wrong with you. But, we're just too far apart and the distance would make that difficult. p If it makes you feel better, women do exactly the same things you described. How bout a lame excuse of "we got our phone numbers mixed up." How do you do that when your cell-phone has caller ID? Is she stupid to think I would believe it or does she think I'm that stupid? All frogs are NOT male.
Maybe this will/could help! Best Dream Date From the New York Post A Japanese company is selling a pillow shaped like a guy, which gives ladies a good nights cuddle without any belches or blanket-hogging. My grandmother used to say that there is no more comfortable pillow than a human, said Tomoki Kakehashi, president of Kameo Corp., the pillows manufacturer. The inventiona headless torso with a stuffed armsells for $100. The steep price hasnt deterred those who want a mans touch without having to deal with his, uh, needs. I think it is great because this does not betray me, said one customer. From Parade.com
And another Country heard from today! Brainy women face handicap in marriage stakes: British survey Sun Jan 2, 3:43 PM ET LONDON (AFP) - A high IQ is a hindrance for women wanting to get married while it is an asset for men, according to a study by four British universities published in The Sunday Times newspaper. The study found the likelihood of marriage increased by 35 percent for boys for each 16-point increase in IQ. But for girls, there is a 40-percent drop for each 16-point rise, according to the survey by the universities of Aberdeen, Bristol, Edinburgh and Glasgow. The study is based on the IQs of 900 men and women between their 10th and 40th birthdays. "Women in their late 30s who have gone for careers after the first flush of university and who are among the brightest of their generation are finding that men are just not interesting enough," said psychologist and professor at Nottingham University Paul Brown in The Sunday Times. Claire Rayner, writer and broadcaster, said in the article that intelligent men often prefered a less brainy partner. "A chap with a high IQ is going to get a demanding job that is going to take up a lot of his energy and time. In many ways he wants a woman who is an old-fashioned wife and looks after the home, a copy of his mum in a way." Ok, It's me talking now, Annie, I had a discussion about this at lunch today with 2 UAW International Appointees, one single female from Lansing and the other a married Millwright from Flint, and you know what they said? He said that no way would he want a mate that wasn't as smart or smarter than him, his wife works on the line in Flint, but that talking was what it was all about, they talk about everything, she even has a nicer Harley than he does! And female friend(Stephanie) says, she ends the 'date' or otherwise if the dude can't have a decent conversation about anything, right off the bat, and she's a girl that has changed a clutch, plowed snow with a "FORD" and raced a Capri, with a 4.10 gear, and does crossword puzzles for fun! and spent this past summer, being my pit crew, and had a blast! Neither of us met any men, that took our fancy, but that isn't a new thing for me, but we had a blast, racing, winning(runner-up at the GS Nats) partying with my old friends, and now her new friends, etc. and look forward to doing 'it' again in 2005, and maybe meet our matches somewhere in time! But until then, we do what we do best, have fun with all our Buick Friends from across the country(world)! What else is there to do, till we grow up?? But Growing up is optional, growing old, we don't talk about!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :3gears: :beer :beer :beer :beer :bglasses: :bglasses:
Two big dates in 2004 and that is twice as many as I had in 2003!! Just about to come to the decision to "look but don't touch" which is kinda hard on a fellow but a whole lot less complicated.
Men are like..... Men are like cigarettes....you know they're bad for you but you just can't give them up...... I heard about this study on TV today. Seems to ring true in some aspects. I won't get into here, lest I start a gender war, but we'll have drinks sometime and discuss it! It is a common topic amongst my gang, male and female, and it can get pretty heated. Go Stephanie!! I'm having the same problem. I go out with these guys and they can't even talk about themselves!! Even when prompted. Believe me, I can have a conversation about nearly anything - and I ask a lot of leading questions. Thurday night, it was like pulling teeth to get that guy to actually converse like a human! I even have them Instant message ME, then expect me to hold the conversation myself! :af: Goodness sakes, I can talk to myself (and probably have a better conversation) here at home with the dog!! :Smarty: Disclaimer: This is in no way applicable to all men, but there seems to be an abundance of less than desirables lately! Your results may vary. Interestingly enough, I just confirmed a dinner date for Saturday while typing this message..... ou: If at first you don't succeed....... :3gears: and go get drunk with your girlfriends!!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Whattaya mean? There's hundreds of Polish women looking for love online! Oh, your in Illinois, :laugh:
Last year 2003 I would be @ 0 (unless going out with a Buick counted!), but 2004 was a lot better- met my girlfriend in February, been on a date ever since. Bizzarre, because I was on a 10 year drought. I thought it was going to be me and my buicks til death do us part.
Annie, Why can't guys be honest?? Because it's EASIER to be indirect, and let you read between the lines. It's hard to tell a person that you aren't attracted to them without it sounding like a put down. Been there done that once, and it wasn't pleasant. There is nothing wrong with you, you just haven't found your match yet, simple as that. Like the Diana Ross song says, "You cant hurry love, you just have to wait", "Love don't come easy, it's a game of give and take" Yes you are down on yourself. There is nothing to change. When a girl starts trying to change me, I know it is the beginning of the end. There are lots of women out there who think a guy is a diamond in the rough, a work in progress. They try to change him, and it rarely works, and he resents it. Just put yourself out there, and be confident in being yourself. The right guy for you will look right past all the others and only see you. In the mean time, just do what you like to do, and for crying out loud, don't date married guys, that's typical of women with low self esteem. If you find out a guys married, drop him like a hot potato, that will say more about your confidence then anything else.
Respectively disagree... :af: No, it's not. How about: "Thanks for the date, but I don't think we are a good match"??? How hard is that?? Especially in an EMAIL. Instead of choosing one of the most transparent cop-outs he could find. Or, he could have at least been creative and used something like "I'm sorry, but I've been put on double secret probation and I'm not allowed to date anymore". p But, I digress, as it was to my benefit - I prefer the men I date to have a pair. The definition of insanity is to keep doing the same things over and over but expecting different results. I am neither insane, nor am I down on myself. I have been out on enough first dates (only, no follow through) that it is apparent to the most casual observer that there needs to be a change. Perhaps in my Stage 3 Southern Comfort stupor I mistakenly used the term about there being "something wrong with me". Obviously, you can't really know a person very well from one meeting, and with simple statistics based on the large number of first dates that I've been on, there should have been 1 or 2 that went on to a second date (even if the relationship didn't go any farther than that). Perhaps I have poorer conversational skills that I realize? Maybe I'm not dressing as nicely as I could? It could be the way I look in person, who knows? Some of these things are able to be changed, some aren't, some shouldn't be changed just for someone else. BUT, if I don't at least try to figure out and repair what is happening, it's like beating your head on a rock and wondering why your head keeps hurting. I fail to see how looking into self improvement is equivocable to hating myself. I'm not perfect, neither is anyone else, and if there is something that I can improve on without losing part of my unique identity, why does that always have to mean I'm feeling sorry for myself? I know it's a romantic thought that a person should love you 'just as you are', but I am looking for a person who is growing, improving and broadening their horizons; not stagnating, and thus I am working on improving myself as well. FYI - the man in question did not tell me he was married to begin with (who's fault is that?) and when I found out, we now longer dated by MY choice (but he would have been happy to continue, imagine that!). So, I'm already one-step ahead of you on that one. Anyway, sorry to turn the thread into the Dr. Phil show. And, note to self: no longer post when under the influence of Southern Comfort. :laugh:
I liked this post Annie!!! But being married, I stayed off it. I have a buddy I could set you up with in Cincinnati, however that would be a long date for one of you. :Brow: The sad thing is, he is not exactly into cars (and said to me back in the 80's, that my car was the fastest he had ever driven, and it scared the hell out of him). o No: At the time, I took it to mean he would just have an endless supply of speeding tickets.
Sorry to upset you Annie But I honestly think you will make yourself Crazy like that o No: If your convinced that you are doing something wrong, how about asking a good girlfriend. Ask them to be brutally honest with you.
