Tom, I'm sorry about your 'situation' that You did nothing to deserve being in. My ex wasn't as bad but she did say and do things to turn my Daughter & Son not to trust or respect me. It did bite her in the ass eventually when my Daughter turned on her. She helped create a narcissist who will throw everything you've ever done for her out the window if you say or do something she really dislikes.
My father died when I was eleven. I feel like I never really got to know him. I miss him & my mom every day. Here is one of my favorite pictures of him. He had recently got his new 1951 Harley Davidson EL...
I lost my Dad in 1990. I was in college at the time and went to Prince Goerge right away. After the funeral I went back to college. I sat in the lab staring at my work for about 1 hour, went to the instructor and told him "I can't be here right now " It took me a week to go back to school and in that time I fell from first in the class to third. I recovered to second. Just not enough time to get back to first. I miss my Dad every day, even after 30 years.