Death

Just now learned my number one employee’s best friend died in a horrible car accident. This is obviously new to me. Tried calling him to talk. But won’t answer.
How do I deal with him. He obviously is very distraught.
I knew him very well also.
I will give him all the time off as needed.
Advice?

 

Give him time. He seen your ID when you called. When he is ready he will call.

 

That's all you can do is give him time. Possibly go to his house for a welfare check?

 

Leave him a message (if you haven't) telling him that you want to provide him as much time off and anything else he may need that you can provide.

 

that’s a good idea.

 

If he won't answer, leaving a nice message of support is good too. Sorry about this terrible situation.

 

Sorry to hear your employee and friend is having a difficult time with the death of his best friend.
It's expected he would be very depressed over this situation.
Giving him time is the best cure for his well being.

Maybe a Get Well Card from his friends at your work place might help. Shows him he is cared for and missed.
Just a suggestion, hope I can help your situation. Vet

 

Agree just a short and to the point message letting him know to take his time and come back when he's ready...he doesn't need motivational quotes..scriptures...or a casserole rite now

 

Untimely deaths are the worst, they blind side you, it’s quite a shock, unlike a death from being ill, where it’s a slow progression.
Prayers for your friend

 

Offer your support in any way they wish, be that as much time off work to grieve as you're doing, an ear to listen, (and only listen) and perhaps few paid days off or paid professional grief counseling if he doesn't know how to deal with this. You might consider contacting a grief counselor for further guidance.

He may be a different person after returning to work, depending on how he deals with this.

 

Offer your support in any way they wish, be that as much time off work to grieve as you're doing, an ear to listen, (and only listen) and perhaps few paid days off or paid professional grief counseling if he doesn't know how to deal with this. You might consider contacting a grief counselor for further guidance.

He may be a different person after returning to work, depending on how he deals with this.

 

GOOD ADVICE!

 

When my Dad passed, it was sudden and I was in College. I was top of my class with a 3.98 GPA. I got the call and we left Kamloops for Prince George, right away. After the funeral, I tried to go back to class, but, just sat there for about an hour. I went to the instructor, explained my problem, and he told me to take what time I needed. I told him I just cannot be there right now. A week later, I returned to class, caught up on the work, and sincerely appreciated the time I was give by my instructors.

Give him time, he will contact you when he can speak without choking up. I was already retired when my son passed, or I don't know what would have happened.

 

I am sorry for your loss. I think you should text mail and e-mail short message explaining what he can expect from you as a employer and friend. Then its up to him. Good Luck!

 

I'm so sorry to hear! Prayers for you and your friend.

Texting him to let him know you're there for him whenever he needs you and not to worry about work right now may be helpful to him.

 

Agree with all the above. If the funeral is local, go. Shake his hand and tell him how sorry you are.

 

Guy the number one best thing you can do is just be there and available to listen. Say your condolences from the heart, whatever else you are led to do, Flowers, time off etc., other than that, I have learned when people are suffering loss, a shoulder to cry on or a compassionate listening ear are the most valuable and appreciated things a grieving person can possibly receive.

 

He texted back. Seems fine

 

If you don't have a bereavement policy for your business this would be a good time to get something together. It's good to have some structure in this department. Some folks like to take advantage of this sort of thing.

 

Great news to hear Guy.
Hopefully, he will greave and get back to normal or as normal as can be expected.