I would like to take this time to make a sincere apology to all that I have offended. Some of you can accept it or just choose to just scroll past. First: My behavior on here. I have an alcoholic addiction. The hard booze is an evil addiction to have and kick. I was sober for a year once. Just unfortunately fell back. I have made some progress from eliminating the hard alcohol during the week. The unacceptable comment I made over the weekend is the evil that took over. My mind and thoughts just are no good for human interaction. It's a continuous battle. This by any means is not an excuse. It's dangerous to quit cold, I am working on being no hard booze within a week or two. Second: I guess I am not all familiar with the rules on here. It's been tough grasping/understanding how the correct process is Or what should not be said or cross posted on certain posts. To close this apology, I would like any support if anyone is willing to support someone with an alcoholic addiction and if you can have it in your heart to forgive me.
Hang in there Jeremy....coming clean about it is a great step....I have a number of friends that had to cut it out completely or they might not be here now. I am lucky I guess...I drink daily but not to excess. You have alot of living to do.....try make the best of it....sober if you can...working on carsnstuff is a good alternative.
I missed out on whatever you said that was offensive. So no worries from my point of view. Secondly, I hear you saying that "hard alcohol" is the problem. In my experience this is wrong. If you have an issue with alcohol, it's ALL alcohol. Only drinking beer might mask or delay the problem, but you will likely discover, it's still a problem. We all support you and know you can do this. You have way too much to live for to mess it up. Hang in there.
I come from a long line of alcoholics. I started drinking, but we quit when my wife got pregnant. It won't be easy, but all the people on the site will support you. Keep strong! Chuck
It takes a lot of will to open up like this and for that, I commend you. Know that you're not the only one dealing with issues like this, as I'm sure almost every member on here knows at least person in a similar situation and recognizing it - on a public forum, no less - is a big step. I'm willing to bet there's meetings local to you that you should consider, if you haven't already. Our (Buick) community is much smaller than other brands, so that means there's a different bond than the brand Xers. Don't be afraid to ask questions about things you're unsure of (on here) going forward. We're all here to help.
I missed what happened or was said. But no matter what it was stepping up to own it is a big step. My wife works with addicts more on the drug side but addiction are addiction....drugs, alcohol, porn, sex, etc... whatever...they are different vut tne same ......and I will agree with what was said above...... Compartimentizing it in in saying only hard liquor is the issue isVERY bad AND DANGEROUS. example My mother in law only turns into the mean lady when she drinks jack.........but in the end when she drinks.......eventually that night all roads lead in one form or another to jack.......and then the mean person comes out...... she had to find new roads that involved no alcohol. The same is true with drugs, sex, porn, whatever addiction.......there WILL be a trigger.......there is no safe softer alternative ......its all or nothing....... So don't mask your issue or trade one problem for another by saying I'm doing good trading beer or liquor........cause I promise you.....the road will lead back to where you don't want it to. But you took the hard first step and called yourself out.......alot of ppl can't even get to this point.......so great job on that.......find a program the helps.....find and identify your triggers.....what makes you want those things.......then have a safety plan in place......what am I going to do, who am I going to call, where am I going to go.....
Well Jeremy, I'm very glad you posted this as I was really wondering about you & your post explains a lot... I'm sure others were as well and I think you've been given tremendous leeway on here wrt your very often brash/offensive/inappropriate comments because we all know or know of your father, who is a very well respected member here. I've bitten my tounge more times than I care to remember in the short time you've been on here. I've never blocked anyone on any social media platform but... That said, we're a supportive and forgiving group (the best IMHO) and it I realize it took a lot for you to post this so apologies accepted. Most of us would help in any way we can but you have to be the one willing to change your life. I agree w/the others. You have to give it up completely. The longer you go w/o, the easier it'll be. The first few days will be the toughest b/c of being addicted both physically & mentally just being used to drinking at certain times. Some can do this on their own & others need help. We all (most anyway) have our vices and when they get in the way of living need to be addressed. Could be drugs, food, porn, social media, alcohol, etc. Admitting there's a problem is the 1st step.
I for one can TOTALLY understand. It will be a life long battle. But it’s easier to look at it like this. You just can’t drink today. Get up the next morning and say the same thing to yourself. Repeat. I seriously try to stay off the board or any social media when I relapse. You’re not alone with this. And remember, it’s not your fault, it’s the deceases fault..our brains work differently and wired differently from normal people. Everyone recovers in different ways. What really helped me is getting a dog or pet. For both companionship and responsibility. You can’t take care of him or her if you’re drunk.
Also, if you’re even just a tiny bit religious, it helps to read the Bible or join a Bible study. Lots of passages in there that relates to life problems. And everyone here seems to understand. Good people here
I know what you are going through. Many years ago I had a conversation with an alcoholic at work. He had quit and explained the difficulty of quitting. He also explained to me that my drinking was called maintenance drinking. I had started drinking in high school and continued on into my adulthood. But I want to backtrack to a lecture from a teacher in high school. She explained that every poured drink in a bar or restaurant has the same amount of alcohol in it (does not relate to mixed drinks). A 12 oz beer, a glass of wine, or a shot of hard liquor, they are all the same. A 12 oz IPA would be more. So I only drink Chardonnay is a misguided idea, it is alcohol . On to years later. When I was forty we had our first child and I stopped drinking because I didn’t want my kids to ever see me drunk. Our daughters moved out around 15 years ago and I started drinking beer again to keep up with my wife who drinks wine in the evenings. I would start drinking IPAs around five and keep sipping until I went to bed. That is maintenance drinking, once you start you don’t stop until you go to sleep. This meant I would drink a six pack a day. I love my IPA. But, what impact did it have on me? Lots. I have had diverticulitis for 25 years. I knew that beer was not helping my guts and definitely not my sleeping. If you wake up around 3:00am and have a hard time going back to sleep, it is probably alcohol related. Now about stopping drinking: Most likely your friends drink, it is part of your culture. It is probably part of your routine when you come home at night. It is probably how you relax. These are things you need to be considering and thinking about. Here is my story. I quit smoking and dipping snuff when I was in my early thirties. The hardest thing I have done in my whole life. I have chronic pain so I took Norco for over fifteen years and the doctor said because of law changes I would have to stop. I did by tapering off for a week. That was relatively easy. Then it became obvious to me that my gut was a disaster and lack of sleep was going to kill me. My last drink of any alcohol was April 2, 2022. In a few days it will be two years and I will not go back to drinking any alcohol. My stomach is much happier and I sleep much better. I know what I can’t do is have one!!! The idea that you are out with your buddies and can have just one beer is bull ****. I would be back to drinking and have wasted all those clean months. I know I am an alcoholic. I know it will run, or ruin, my life if I let alcohol back in. If you want to stop drinking come up with a plan and stick to it. Taper off for a few days then quit and get ready for the backlash you will get from friends. Think about what you will do with all the money you will save! I figure it to be $10.00 a day for me. Good luck and message me if you have any questions or issues I might be able to help with.
Wow, glad to see you come clean on here. I didn't know you started up drinking again. I'm always here if you need to talk. I know we have been working on your car but you can always talk to me about it too!
Good luck, I feel it's best to listen to any that have lived it and can share their experiences. I don't know about the apology but there are a lot of good guys here that will support you if you are honest with them. You can do this!
We all live in the moment called "now". One second later and the moment called "now" is in the history books, never to be lived again. It is gone. The moment in the future will forever be in the future. You can never hold it. All you have is "now", right now. You have the power over "now". You always have the power over "now". Realize that power you have to say "no" to letting anything into your moment. You are not alone in this fight.
Prayers said.... find strength in God... You'll find me when you seek me with ALL your heart (soul) God has said
