A couple years ago my dad had a minor heart attack, he was at the time 46. Hes now 48. I'll be 24 tomorrow and moved out exactly one year ago. Two months ago my mother left him and today I found out he had another heart attack this morning. Pray for his safety please. And pray for me, I don't know how much more news like this I can take, it's been a tough few months. Part of me wishes I could move back in with him and take care of him even though my girlfriend and I have our own life together now.
Stay positive man... and more-so... keep your dad positive. Tell him all of us here are thinking of him...ray:
It breaks my heart seeing him like this. He doesn't eat right and he drinks too much. I have a hard time talking to him on the phone because I can hear the pain in his voice and it tears me apart. And now with another round of health problems, I just dont know what to do. If I was single I would have been back there a month ago. But I'm madly in love with my girlfriend and we have a place and a life together. As soon as I save the money for a ring she'll be my wife and it is not fair to her for me to cast her aside to take care of him. Hes a grown man and he knows the damage hes doing to himself. I don't really expect much input, just kind of venting right now. This board has been really good to me over the last couple of years and theres hardly a day that goes by that I don't find myself logging on. It's clear full of knowledgeable, helpfull great people and I appreciate every one of you keeping my family and I in your prayers.
I watched a number of time when my father almost drank himself to death so I understand how you feel. He finally quit after the last time being in the hospital so hopefully your dad will see the light and start working to take better care of himself. Now, If you have a great relationship with your girlfriend she should understand your wanting to help and living with you father for a while to help him out. I was very surprised when my wife suggested it before I said anything about it. When he did live with us it was tough but manageable. Now he lives with my brother but wants to be on his own again. So talk to your girlfriend and ask her how she would feel about it.. you just might be surprised by her answer. I know this is the hardest part but try to remember no matter how you feel about it, it is up to your dad and what he chooses to do, you can love him but he will only change when he chooses too.
I will light candles for you both, and best of luck to you. I also have to agree with what Brett posted: if you and your lady are as solid as you say there is no doubt she will be willing to let you take "time away" to take care of your family matters, possibly even try to help you with that. Ask yourself this: What would you do if she were in your position?
Cullen, praying for you and your family. I received an inspiration email this week that said "You can't have a testimony without a test". Things are tough for you now, but you will make it through. Keep your focus and faith, and Faith will guide you through and help you with your decisions. And no matter what happens, you will be stronger as a person and help others as they deal with the same. Thanks for sharing. You have friends and a source of strength here.
Update Thank you eveyone for your prayers. Great news from the hospital, test results came back negative for a heart attack and or any heart damage. Must of just had a extreme panic/stress attack. When he started having pains he popped a nitro pill, and it was past the experation date and he thought it might not be effective, so he took another and then another. The doc thinks because of that his blood pressure dropped so much he was about to pass out- that was when dad thought he was a goner. He didn't know his blood pressure was spiraling down- he just knew he had horrible chest pain and that he was about to black out which he mistook for kicking the bucket. Hes at home and recovering right now. Thank you again for your support guys. All in all, not my best birthday ever but my dad still being here is the best present I've ever got...
man that is some great news... I'll sleep a little better tonight too, I was thinking about you and GF and your dad just about an hr ago. Excellent update to end the night. Take care.
Do all you can to take care of your Dad he is the only one you will have . Maybe if he sees how much you care he will take better care of himself and his health will get better . Good Luck to you and your family .
