dear v8buick forumers, i am regretively informing u guys that my dad pakual had a heart attack and stroke 3 weeks ago at 9:45pm pacific time. so anyways thanks for helping my dad with a few things with the 1970 GS 455 convertable and with the other cars he ask u guys about. sincerly, GS
Sorry to hear the bad news, hope he's doing fine. I know what you went through, same thing happened to my father on Sept 18th, but without the stroke, and had quadruple bypass on the 27th. Everything seems to be going good for him now.
the doctors say that he is probably in pain rite now. the doctor also said that if he returns he be like a 1yr child. my step mom made the decsion to like 4 days after she should of made the descion to keep him alive like 4 day earlier than she did. and then she had a nerves break down the day before she made the decsion if i was 18 i would have a say:af:. i only got a few month thought i just want it over before xmas. my dad told my mom when they were married if i can't take care of my self then let me go. i myself would want to be in his position if i don't have a good chance to come back normal then let me go my self. so that way poeple can remeber me on how i was in the good times. the gto and the buick are the only things that are keeping me going. cuz thats what me and him did all the time. and yes i do live in cali. any of u guys know how long it takes for the crankshaft to freeze? i just curiors :3gears:
GS - my heart goes out to you and your family but you must not loose hope. Six years ago I came downstairs to find my father lying on the floor, semi-conscious and barely able to speak. We rushed him to the hospital where he was diagnosed as having had a severe stroke. This was two years after he battled and beat cancer. They could not give him the drug that helps stroke victims as it is only administered withing a few hours of having the stroke - or else it could do more bad than good - and we could not say exactly when it happened. He had two more minor strokes in the following days as things went from bad to worse. He was on life-support for breathing and the doctors did not think he had long to live. They asked us if he had a "DNR" (Do Not Resusitate....as in try to bring back to life) and he didnt. they asked us what we wanted to do. Knowing that he would not want to live only by support of machines, as you say your Dad implied, we gave the order to DNR. 3 weeks passed while he was in ICU and not doing any better.....but still holding on. Then a miracle happened - he started showing signs of getting better. Slowly....very slowly he fought with our encouragement and companionship. It was very hard on Us - My Mom, My sister and myself - but we set up a bedside vigil so that someone was always with him. We talked to him, read to him, told stories of when we were kids, vacations we all went on together...etc.etc..and slowly he started responding. He could move a finger....then his hand. it wasn't long (a few more weeks) before they took him off the respirator. By then, he was able to scribble on a pad to communicate. More weeks passed and he started to get stronger and stronger. He was able to speak again which was a great uplifting of our spirits. More weeks passed and he was transferred to a stroke rehabilitation facility where he went through ALOT of therapy. He spent several months there before being dismissed to go home where he still received therapy for quite some time. During all of this, I proposed to my wife, and told Dad I wanted him to work very hard because I wanted him to walk me down the Isle at my wedding. He set this as his goal and he did just that !! I was so proud of him....as he was of me. While he is not the same (mentally or physically) as he was before the storke, He is still very much himself and able to walk with difficulty using a caine. He has almost total left arm and leg paralysis but manages very well. Unfortunately I cant guarantee that your Dad will recover because mine did, but I will tell you this - If we (Mom, Sis and Me) had given up hope, he would have too. If we would have stopped caring and showing our love, he would have perrished. The Doctors who said he might die, and even if he recovered .... would be a greatly diminshed ... WERE WRONG. They cant know everything and they dont want to be wrong, so they give you a worst case scenario. Dont Give up Hope.....your hope is all your father has right now. You have to be VERY STRONG so he can use your strength to fuel his own. It is very tough to go in and see him the way he is day after day but you know he would do the same for you. Tell him you love him. Tell him to fight - that you need him. He may not be able to respond, but I guarantee you he hears you. If you would like to talk, I am here for you. You can call me anytime Monday - Firday during working hours 212-572-9265 Home (after 7p m-f) 631-486-8578 Cell 631-455-2858
Wow U are guys I should not give up. my dad he is a fighter and he will fight but i don't know how i can get strong again. i did my sports for him to watch me do it and he is not there to watch. i have lost my fire to wrestling. the fire comes and goes. though i am look for it i found it then i lose it again. is there any thing in the bible to help me in this quest for hope. i just want the this rocky horror picture show movie to end. ty for the tale about your dad how is he doing rite now. hope he does do well in the future. sincirly, gs
Best Wishes Please tell us your name. What do you like to do? Are you still in school? I'm glad that you appreciate musclecars. It is very sad to experience what you are going through. Your father is the most important person to you, and you are too young to lose him. I am glad to hear that you were able to be strong and wrestle and that your father was proud of you. You sound like a good son. It may be that you will have to grow up faster now and be the man in your family while your dad recovers. Please try to get along with your stepmother so that you can both do what is best for your father. My father has been very ill and has had heart surgery. He is 75 and I am 45, so I have had many good years to enjoy his wisdom. I cannot bear the thought of having him gone, but that is something that everybody must face someday. God bless you and your father, and remember that we will pray for you.
Hi GS There are others here who would be better at steering you to Bible passages for support and strength. There is a specific section labeled "Help From Above" on this board that you should post in. I would also suggest that you speak with your Priest - Im sure he would be a souce of inspiration. Surround yourslef with Family and Friends and use their strength and hope to energize your own. I found the strength I needed by knowing that my father always had, and always would, do anything and everything he could for me. I knew that I had to do whatever it took to help him in his time of need. This is not an easy thing to confront and your feelings of strength will change from day to day. That is OK and perfectly normal. There were many times when I felt "I cant do this" - again, perfectly normal. Take a break.....Work on one of the cars for a few hours and it will give you the strength to carry on tomorrow. Its also normal to feel alittle mad or guilty at yourself for not going some days - channel that negative energy into positive motivation to get you to go the next day. You mention sports and wrestling - Use the feelings of anger that this has happened , and let that give you the strength to continue. You need to go foward and continue with your life even though it has changed. Tell you father you miss seeing him at your games - that he was the source of your strength. If and when he could answer, Im sure he would want you to continue. Perhaps Videotape your events and tell your father you have them for him to watch someday. Tell him about your matches in great detail. It is perfectly normal to feel angry, Sad, helpless, frustrated, and a thousand other emotions. It isn't fair what happend to you or you father and family - but it has. It is now your task to find a way to continue on and help. There are Stroke organizations and web sites that are very helpful. The social worker at the hospital your father is at should be able to get you and your Mom information about local ones. Just like particiapting on the board makes US feel part of a community and that we are not alone (In our love for Buicks) , so to is participating in stroke organization. I learned that we were not alone and that alot of families are dealing with the same feelings. I also learned that no two strokes are the same. Each person is affected in different ways. My father lost abilities that are both physical and mental but none that are terribly bad. He is mostly limited to a wheelchair but can walk short distances with his caine. He has no use of his left arm so even little things we take for granted (like getting the cap off the toothpaste tube or cutting your food) become a task. You learn to work around these problems. Mentally - he tires easily and naps often. He is alot more forgetful than he ever was. He also has trouble initiating himslef to move - like he'll sit there with the fork in his hand but not put it to the plate or in his mouth. .....but he's still 100% my Dad. I'll hold his food while he cuts it with the knife. I'll say "You gonna eat that or look at it for another 10 minutes ??" when he's just sitting there....and he'll laugh and so will I. Its not fair what has happened and I wish I could tell you what the days and weeks to come will bring - but I cant. You have to hope each day will be better and do all you can to make it that way.
hey al what did your dad do first when he started coming out of ? just curious cuz mine he bends his arms and opens his eyes a little. :3gears: :TU: :beer sincerly, jason
Hi Jason That is good news !! My Dad did just that - he started wiggling his fingers and moving his arm.....same with his right foot and leg. Does he respond when you talk to him ?? Squeeze his finger (one that he's moved) and ask him to wiglle that finger. Dont be upset if he cant, but if he can try different fingers.....make a fist....Waive.....It all seems alittle silly at the time but its helping him. If he cant do these, Say...."Thats OK Dad....we'll try again tomorrow...." To try and understand what has happened inside your Dads brain - think of the roads in your town. Those roads are information paths the brain uses. In a stroke, some of those roads are patrially blocked and some of them are torn up. When people start recovering from a stroke, the information wants to travel on the roads it is used to using and sometimes it can and sometimes it cant. Sometimes the road gets rebuilt and other times it needs to find another road to get to where it wants to - just like there is more than one way for you to get home from school. It takes time to find out what roads are blocked....and what can be fixed or detours found. It takes alot of patience and understanding. WHen I visited my Dad on Sunday I told him all about you and your father and what happened. He said the hardest part is undertanding why this happened, and that there is no real answer or reason - but that you have to accept it and go on from here. He also said that the family being around and encouraging him gave him strength to fight back. Be proud of you Dad for fighting....and tell him so. We all here are proud of you for finding strength and hope I know your Dad feels the same way
Damn man, I hate to hear stuff like that. I hope he get's better soon. My father and mother both have cancer, My mom has emphazema (sp??) and my dad contracted HIV thru needle sharing when I was younger. (he's clean now, been clean for along time) Sometime's it gets to me, but since all that has been discoverd, My sense of family and my concept of life and happiness has changed, You CAN'T not have hope, he's your father, Just like when he was pulling for you to learn to walk and talk when you were a baby, you have to pull for him now. All were doing is returning the favor that our parent's did for us. I know your only 17, ( I guess anyways ), But you should use the sports to your advantage, use that to get the pain out, leave it all on the field/mat and go balls to the wall. I know your dissapointed and saddend, use your sports as therapy, I did, and it worked well, altho the other guys on the field didnt like it to much cuz I was whoopin some ass. Keep your old man in your thoughts, reconsile with God if need be, I hope he get's better soon man.. My Email is Kearley@gmail.com if you need to talk.... - kenny
it hard to to my sports because i did it for him and to get my frustrations out. it feels like i lost my point to do it. ou: so ya i wee :Comp: if i try to start doing it agians. when i try it felt point less to. cuz the half that wants to do it is gone but there at the same time. its is so dam and frustrated so i just go hour by hour
