Prayers needed for my little family

Discussion in 'Help From Above' started by sean Buick 76, Jan 15, 2022.

  1. Mart

    Mart Gold level member

    Prayers for all Sean. It is a struggle to stay calm. I had the experience back in 98. Wasn't good. Even got on anti depressants for a couple months to have calm waters instead of 7' waves.
    Keep your chin up. Wishing you the best.
     
  2. Dano

    Dano Platinum Level Contributor

    It's so much harder on kids than ppl realize. I hope you two can work it out. Doesn't sound like it's gotten past that point.
     
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  3. efogs400

    efogs400 Platinum Level Contributor

    All good advice above, if you love her and she still loves you, fight for it!

    No idea how long you have been married or your circumstances, but 33 years in here, we had a rough spot about 8 years in, our girls were about the same ages as yours and we / I learned a lot about compromise and changing habits before we crossed the bridge of no return. I look back on that period sometimes and thank God that I had the sense, and she had the heart to work it out.

    God Speed
     
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  4. sean Buick 76

    sean Buick 76 Buick Nut

    Thank you
     
  5. Briz

    Briz Founders Club Member

    30+ years in and theres been more than one time I was ready to walk away. I stayed because my kids deserved to be raised in a intact 2 parent household. Every person is different and it takes a lot of time to learn the give and take. On my part its more give and just learned to hold my tongue. A pastor friend told me God puts you with who you need to be with and not who you want to be with for a reason. We are like Bert and Ernie. Im Bert.
    On a lighter note... The root cause of the problem could have something to do with that Chevelle in your wedding pic.
     
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  6. FLGS400

    FLGS400 Gold Level Contributor

    Hang in there Sean, I hope everything works out for you and your family.

    As others have posted, all marriages seem to go through some rough times at some point. I went through it about 12 years ago and we both decided after a couple tries that it wasn't working out. We have always been pretty civil with each other since, and have always been able to talk about things that pertain to our son (he is Autistic and was 10 at the time). Both of us were able to adjust and live happy lives after it was all said and done. What Tom posted was spot-on, and that is the way it has been for me.
     
  7. dr

    dr Well-Known Member

    As others have said all great advice. Go to marriage counseling see if that helps. It may show what is the best path to take.
     
  8. Gallagher

    Gallagher Founders Club Member

    Prayers sent.
     
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  9. 12lives

    12lives Control the controllable, let the rest go

    Don't know if you did his or not, but the teachings of Pre-Cana, a course of marriage consultation that couples must undergo before they can be married in a Catholic church, can be really helpful even after the "I do's".
     
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  10. Mike Sobotka

    Mike Sobotka Founders Club Member

    Hopeful you can keep it together. Work it out. Praying for you all. Divorce sucks and is real hard on young ones.
     
  11. PGSS

    PGSS Gold Level Contributor

    My prayers and good thoughts also..
     
  12. TrunkMonkey

    TrunkMonkey Well-Known Member

    In most cases, no one benefits from divorce.

    Exceptions are abuse, evil, and the like.

    If people are still able to show compassion to each other, even if situation is tense and painful, there is true hope for reconciling and making adjustment and allowances to a viable relationship.

    But, both have to realize some things may be put on the alter of sacrifice.

    Better than dancing on the killing floor.

    Prayers and best hope for your family.
     
  13. 69 GS 400

    69 GS 400 Well-Known Member

    Women need attention ... Some feel that they come second to our hobby and I get where they are coming from. My ex , whenever I was on this site or others looking at cars or parts would ask if I was looking at " car porn again ". I asked her which type she would rather me look at ? The plus is that she knows what I am doing , where I am , not out drinking or cheating . On the other hand this site has Help From Above which is great and gives a real sense of community and support that she had no Idea until I explained it to her. I admit , sometimes I have gone on this site just to chill and calm down because of something that happened in the household. The main thing is that there needs to be a balance. The wife , the kids, family and friends and our sports or hobbies. With work , careers and chores it is 24/ 7. Sometimes we need to reflect a bit and think of others needs and what is most important in life. God brings people together for a reason . Let us not disappoint and value what we are given.
     
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  14. Briz

    Briz Founders Club Member

    When ever we went the counselor would look straight at me and say Its my fault. She cheated but somehow Im at fault. After a few rounds of that bull we didnt go anymore.
     
  15. JESUPERCAT

    JESUPERCAT No Slow Boat

    Briz that is why people above mostly suggested a Pastor or Christian counselor.
    That way it's both of your faults :D.
    Learn from, except, forgive( as we were Forgiven), move forward. Do your best not to repeat that which causes the issues.
    In the end we are human therefore we do not measure up. Nevertheless never stop trying to live a life Jesus would be proud of, you do that, and your family will notice.
     
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  16. 1969RIVI

    1969RIVI Well-Known Member

    Briz, was your counselor a female? If so then you should've already known you'd be at fault since they tend to stick together:rolleyes:.
     
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  17. CJay

    CJay Supercar owner Staff Member

    It takes two people to screw up a relationship. It's not all one person's fault.
     
  18. 1969RIVI

    1969RIVI Well-Known Member

    You know what Jason, that's the most truthful statement I've read yet. Everything takes two when it comes to relationships.
     
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  19. sean Buick 76

    sean Buick 76 Buick Nut

    Yes guys lots of spiritual help is a part of our plan. In this case I’m admitting that it’s mostly my fault so it’s just trying to re build trust in baby steps. Thankfully we have always had very good communication, even when it’s angry and hurtful at least we both know where we stand.

    We had a good past couple of days so I’m going to focus on that!
     
  20. Buicksky

    Buicksky Gold Level Contributor

    Sean, Prayers for you and your family. Stay Positive.
     
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