My Loss

Discussion in 'Help From Above' started by 65WILDKAT, Feb 27, 2007.

  1. 65WILDKAT

    65WILDKAT A PROUD FATHER OF THREE!

    I lost my Mother in law last week, We buried her on Friday and I feel a huge hole in my heart. I grew up in the Foster care system back in the mid sixties to the mid seventies. So I never had a Mother that loved me. When my Future Wife moved next door to me back in 1974 I met the most beautiful and Loving person her name was Joan Marie. About two years went by before I started to date my furture Wife but I had grown very attached to her mother. She was full of Love and Caring and we had simaliar past, She had spent about a year in a home for Kids back in the mid forties, I had spent 8 plus years in a home and them moved to a Foster Family.Well my Foster Parents were in this for the money as I was consider a special case due to my age. After you hit your teens in those years as it is today your chances of getting to live with a foster family drops a huge amount. My Foster Parents did as little for me as possible. When I would need clothing I was always brought to the cheapest place to buy clothing. I was not given any moral support at all and I lived under the constant fear of "If any of our children do not like you then you are going back to where you came"
    Well Joan (my furture mother in law) would always do things for me such as sew up a pair pants that had a hole in them or slip me couple of dollars to keep in my pocket.She would dry my clothes in her drier because my Foster parents would not let me use theirs because it cost too much! We could talk for hours and she would always have great advice for me or just a simple thing as someone to listen too me. When I married my Wife our bond grew even stronger when My Son ws born, My Wife and I both worked and we needed a Babysitter and my Mother in law said that she would watch him and she would not let him be left with strangers who did not Love him. She did this for us with my other two children also. She was the kind of person who GLOWED WITH LOVE,She could light up a room before you knew she had entered, you could feel her love when she would smile at you I feel so blessed to have had her in my Life. I will miss her Smile, Her voice, her words of wisdom but I know that I will always feel her Love for me.
    I feel like I have lost a great beacon in my life with her passing.
    Joan you were not my Mother In Law........You were my Mom!
    Thank you you for Loving me and letting me be part of your life.
    Rest in Peace.
     
  2. cjp69

    cjp69 Gold Level Contributor

    Don,

    My condolences go out to you and your family. Losing your mother is a very difficult thing ( I lost mine earlier this month). Here is something a friend (and fellow board member) wrote to me when my mother passed, and it resonated with me so I wanted to pass it along to you.

    "I know that right now nothing anyone can say or do will ease the pain in your heart. You have a family that loves you, you have good memories of your mother in better times. Try to let these bring some joy back in your life and lift some of the pain from your shoulders."

    Again, sorry for your loss Don.

    Chris
     
  3. 71GSX455-4SPD

    71GSX455-4SPD Nick Serwo Magic Car

    Don-

    That is a very moving story. While your luck was not so good with your blood parents, God looked out for you when it came to having this woman in your life.

    Carry on her legacy by treating others as she treated you. God speed her to heaven- certainly the place she is heading.
     
  4. buickbonehead

    buickbonehead WOT Baby!

    Don:

    My heart goes out to you friend. She sounds like a special lady. I dread the day my mother passes. I can only imagine what you are going through.

    Rick
     
  5. bignastyGS

    bignastyGS Maggot pilot

    Deepest Sympathies from my family to yours..She seemed like a great person with alot of love and great character. The world became a lesser place
    with her passing. Think of it as this...Sh'e now helping others and is in a special place we will all be lucky to be in in our passing.
     
  6. 65WILDKAT

    65WILDKAT A PROUD FATHER OF THREE!

    Thank you everyone. I know that someday we will meet again, But until that time I will try and keep her memory alive by doing what she did and that was to look at things in the best possible light and Love my Family even more..if that is possible.
    Thanks again to all,
    Don
     
  7. Boscoe

    Boscoe Well-Known Member

    My prayers and condolences are with you.
     
  8. ss4825

    ss4825 Well-Known Member

    Don, I'll have you and your family im my payers tonight.
     
  9. GSXMEN

    GSXMEN Got Jesus?

    Don - Thanks for sharing that story about Joan. Sounds like you really had a great relationship with her. Even thru the rough early years, you were blessed to have met someone with her character & compassion.

    Very sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you & your family as well.

    On a positive note - it sure sounds like you have a lot of great memories to look back on.
     
  10. 65WILDKAT

    65WILDKAT A PROUD FATHER OF THREE!

    I Told My youngest Daughter that Grandmom will always be with her as long as she remembers her in her heart and thoughts, I also told her that the blood that runs thru her body is the same as Grandmoms, So she will always have a piece of her for the rest of her life and when she gets married she will pass on Grandmom too her children also,So Grandmom will always be apart of her and with her.
    Thank again for the prayers and well wishes.
     
  11. droptop

    droptop Julian Pressley

    Don, Thank you for that beautiful story. I lost my mom back in 1998, and your story soothed me and reasured me that motherly love is still the most wonderful that we ever will experience.

    Hang in there man, and God Bless you and your family. My prayers and condolences go out to you.
     
  12. Mister T

    Mister T Just truckin' around

    Don please accept my most sincere condolences, Joan obviously saw the good in you very early on.
     
  13. 65WILDKAT

    65WILDKAT A PROUD FATHER OF THREE!

    Tom,
    Thanks. She did make me a better person for knowing her.
    Don
     
  14. Floydsbuick

    Floydsbuick Well-Known Member

    Sounds like she was the best! I'm glad you had someone like that in your life. I'm saddened at your loss.
     
  15. 65WILDKAT

    65WILDKAT A PROUD FATHER OF THREE!

    Dan,
    She was the Best and still is iny Book. I was really lucky to have a In-Law that was not over bearing like some of my buddies have. I Will and Do miss our long talks. I will miss watching her face turn a little red from telling a slightly off colored joke to her and her tryng not to laugh.......then busting out in a huge smile and laugh and telling me "Your Bad!" I will miss those meals that she knew I loved and she would call and tease me at work to tell what they were having for Dinner knowing full well that I loved what she was making and then making me beg to come over...all along she had planned to invite meanyway. I just miss altogether.
    Don
     

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