At the end of my rope

Discussion in 'Help From Above' started by Annie Oakley, Dec 14, 2005.

  1. Annie Oakley

    Annie Oakley Well-Known Member

    I'm not sure where else to go or what else to do. I am not asking for explanations, psychoanalysis, answers or advice. Simply, I am requesting for everyone to make a request to their spiritual leaders to simply make it STOP.

    I'll try to make it short: bad things keep happening to me and it won't let up. This has been over the period of about 5 years. Not things like "I can't find my keys"; stuff like a divorce, a horrific accident, a rift inside my family, endless health problems, bad relationships, etc. I can't remember a 'good' Christmas, b-day or New Year's. I had been doing fairly well the past few months, but it's back and, of course, at Christmas time.

    I have been to therapists to determine if I was bringing it upon myself. Except for making some bad choices in men (which has been corrected), they tell me I am rational, logical, clear thinking, etc. The last one even asked when I was going to become a marriage counselor. After my accident I made many changes to the way I thought, interacted and treated people. I have been good to myself and my friends. Re-prioritized. I have "seen the light", so to speak. Even my friends (some of whom are very spiritual and one is a professional counselor) acknowledge that I have made good on the my few misdeeds and they are at a loss of a reason, or what I can do to make it better.

    This week started with being handed a letter Friday night, out of the clear blue, by the boyfriend who has decided that I am too much trouble. Today, while I was plowing snow with my Kawasaki Mule - I was hit by a car. Mostly my fault, no one hurt, but lots of damage to the Mule and the girl's car is going to need some work and I told her to call me with an estimate.

    I realize that these events, in themselves, are not a catastrophe, it's just the constant "bad karma", "bad luck" or whatever you choose to call it. I am not a whiner, I know that there are always people out there worse off than me, and I have been tough, brave, strong and have done everything within my power to remedy it. It is beyond me now. I have no other recourse, I'm calling in a higher power. ALL of them.

    Please, send a prayer, light a candle, cast a spell, throw sea salts, feng shui, anything......I need all the positive karma possible. I need a divorce from Murphy and his law. I'm not asking for extra good stuff, just an end to the bad. A reprieve. The kosmic justice scales must be nearly balanced. I've served my time!

    Sorry to drone on. Thank you for listening.
  2. Harry

    Harry The Hammer

    Bummer,I find bad luck comes in three's,after your third go around your clear!!!
    Good-Luck to you :beer
  3. Mister T

    Mister T Just truckin' around

    Annie, I definitely feel a lot of empathy for you and your situations. It is sometimes very difficult to rid oneself of negative life occurences. Trying to have a more positive outlook on things can help. The saying "make lemonade out of lemons" comes to mind. Trouble is I've never really liked lemonade anyways. :laugh:

    Funny you mention lighting a candle, for I have a couple of those scented candles which hadn't been lit for probably five or six years. Last night, completely out of the blue, I decided to light one of them up. Could it be some sort of positive karma going your way. :Do No: Let's consider it so, and here's to a much happier future for you. :TU:

    I'll light the candle for you again tonight. :beer
  4. 12lives

    12lives Engage! - Jean-Luc Picard

    "If it weren't for bad luck I'd have no luck at all..."

    God bless and keep you safe from harm - Merry Christmas!

    - Bill
  5. 70lark

    70lark Well-Known Member

    You'll be in my prayers.....things will get better. Merry Christmas!
  6. GKMoz

    GKMoz Gary / Moz

    some one is praying for you

    I don't claim to have a direct answer to your problems,however I think someone that is close to you is asking Jesus to intercede in your life to draw you to him. If I may give you a scripture verse that I believe applies to you in your distress. verse is Revelation 3:20 please use this site provided to look it up. What Jesus is saying in that verse is I want you to know me and I will intimately know you! If you ask with an open and honest heart,He will answer your distress. You will SEE God like never before bible site Thanx for listening to my preaching Gary/Moz
  7. Ken Mild

    Ken Mild King of 18 Year Resto's

    Yeah, what Moz said.

    And don't let stuff like feng shui and crystals and ouigi (sp?) boards get in the way.

    Jesus is the only way. Only problem is he won't enter unless you open the door. The hardest thing is thanking God for what you "do" have in these times of distress. Don't try to understand His ways. Just be open. To someone who could care less about Jesus (not saying you do or don't), this seems like utter nonsense. Trust me, it's not. My entire life has turned around since I have opened my heart. All this petty crap and mishaps are so much easier to handle now. The hood flew open on my Explorer one day driving the kids to school. It was like 1 degree out side. Bent the daylights out of the hood. Oh well.

    My reflux and burning chest are getting worse, but I know God will take care of me in this life and in the next. No matter what. I'll get it checked out again and pray about it.

    I can't even believe these words are coming out of my mouth on a public forum, but nonetheless, here they are. That's the new me. But this thread is about you, and you'll perservere if you give control over to the one who wants to take control of your life to begin with. While it "sounds" scary, it is anything but.

    I know you didn't want advice, but hey,with a post like yours did you expect party hats and fireworks? :pp
  8. carl stevenson

    carl stevenson Well-Known Member


    I want to echo what the last 2 guys have said.

    I've been there, done that. I now know that God is the way to peace in these times. I gave my life to Him almost 21 years ago, and now I have peace during times like you are having now, which I NEVER used to have.

    Sorry, I guess that is giving you advice which you said not to, but I'm sharing what works for me. God welcomes us with open arms when we turn to Him, whether we are praising Him, or looking for refuge in times of feeling like you are now.


    GSXMEN Got Jesus?

    Annie - I don't think we'd be very good friends to you if we DIDN'T offer up some sort of advice or positive suggestions. :Smarty: :)

    Regardless of the question......the answer is always to look to Jesus!!

    There is a helpful audio clip by Ron Hutchcraft about How can you find personal peace, in a stressful world? Transcript version

    He has many other 'life issues' listed here.

    Revelation 3:20 (that Gary mentioned above)

    Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.

    How to Know God I would encourage you to look thru these several short pages.

    This one might be especially helpful.............

    "Life's Storms" by Ron Hutchcraft

    I've seen gridlock before in New York City. It's when vehicles are choking at every intersection and literally no one can move. Until recently though, I had never seen gridlock in a grocery store. The weatherman had forecast a hugh snowstorm for our area which was supposed to begin during the night. Well I stopped by the store about 9:30 that night, and I ended up trying to find the end of the line for the cash register. They only had two lanes open and there was a line of carts all the way to the produce section all jammed together so no one could come in, go out, or go through. What brought this sudden urge to shop? Word of an approaching storm.

    Well I'm Ron Hutchcraft, and I want to have "A Word With You" today about "Storm Preparations."

    You see, storms are a fact of everybody's life. If it's calm now, you can be sure that somewhere up ahead there's a storm. The question is, are you ready for the time when things start spinning out of control around you and inside of you? Since we know we have to make it through heavy weather, we need to know we've got what it takes to make it through the crises that have sunk so many other people.

    Well, here's the testimony of a man who lived through imprisonment, disability, injustices, assassination attempts -- the Apostle Paul. The man was unsinkable because he was prepared for any storm. Our word today from the Word of God is from 2 Timothy chapter 1, verse 12. He says, "I am not ashamed, because I know whom I have believed, and I am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him for that day". Now Paul is talking about a deep personal relationship with Jesus Christ, the only man in history powerful enough to beat death and blow the doors off His grave. Paul says, "I'm convinced that He is able to guard what's important to me." The ultimate security in life is knowing you belong to Jesus.

    I was talking to my friend John a few days ago. He's had 10 cancer operations in 8 years. He's been at death's door three times. When you talk to him, you come away almost disbelieving that he's carrying this pain. He's positive, he's generous, he's joyful, he's encouraging. The surgeon is even sending John to some of his other patients who just aren't handling the storm of cancer. John made a simple but heart-rendering statement to me. He said, "Ron, you don't handle it well when you try to handle it without a Savior." And that's the difference - the Savior difference, the Jesus difference.

    You see, all approaches to life work when things are going well, but test is the storm represented by words like cancer, bankruptcy, fired, divorce, terminal. Even smaller storms can drive us to the edge, and sometimes over, unless we've committed ourselves completely to this awesome Savior named Jesus. He loves you unconditionally. He proved that when He died on that cross for the very sins you've done against Him. He's willing to put your life in His eternal keeping and give you eternal life beginning the day you entrust yourself totally to Him. You could do that right where you are. Maybe you could pray like this, "Lord Jesus, I've been trying to do it without a Savior. I've lived my last day without you Lord. I believe you died to pay the death penalty for my sins and today I'm putting my total trust in you to begin a relationship with God. I need a Savior."

    If you're not sure you belong to Jesus Christ and you want to be, I wish you'd e-mail me. You don't need to fear the storm if you know you're ready because your life is in hands that will never, never drop you. Jesus - the One who during a life-threatening storm stepped to the bow of the boat He was in and said, "Peace, be still," and it was. He will do that for you in your storm.

    If you would like to know more about what it means to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, or if you want to know for sure that you belong to Him...

    Read YOURS FOR LIFE! Audio version
  10. Floydsbuick

    Floydsbuick Well-Known Member


    I'm glad you told us. Its important to share stuff like that with the body of believers. You will be in my prayers. :TU:
  11. Keith Seymore

    Keith Seymore Well-Known Member

    I have to weigh in with the rest of these guys - Jesus is the answer.

    We live in a "fallen" world; in this life YOU WILL have trouble (not "maybe", but count on it). Jesus will not prevent you from having problems but will change the way you view them and handle them. Look at the great bunch of people you have here that are pulling for you!

    I pray you walk through these with grace and peace and come out the other side a stronger person.

    God bless ... and Merry Christmas! :TU:

    BUICKBOI "I am speed"

    Positive things happen to positive people.

    Be SO positive that you feel as though you can "will" things to happen and come your way.
  13. Annie Oakley

    Annie Oakley Well-Known Member

    Thank you, all, for the positive thoughts. I would like to respond to many of them specifically, but I'm tired and sore and will be leaving the house soon. But I will say that I deeply appreciate all the thoughts and advice. I had only mentioned 'no advice' mostly so no one would think that I was expecting anything but good thoughts, and it was a rhetorical rant and that I didn't expect anyone to have 'THE' answer.

    It's amazing how even someone else's faith (of any sort) can be comforting.

    Thanks again.
  14. unclelar

    unclelar Well-Known Member

    whatever the Question, Jesus IS the answer.
    put your faith in Him and he will not let you down.
    Merry Christmas Annie! and very Happy New Years to you
    God Bless
  15. 70 Skylark Conv

    70 Skylark Conv Well-Known Member

    Annie, sent you an e-mail. Bad internet problems yesterday at work so e-mail wasn't working.

    You got hit by a car!!!!!!!!!!! :eek2: OMG!!!!!!
  16. faster pastor

    faster pastor Well-Known Member

    I'll be praying for you today!
  17. 70 Skylark Conv

    70 Skylark Conv Well-Known Member

    Okay, I'm on the same page with Annie, so I've got to ask some questions that I think Annie might want to ask too....

    I've tried being so positive that it hurts!!!! Seems like the more positive I am, the worse things get. So what gives with that? :Do No:

    No one seems to understand why such bad things happen to me when I keep on smiling and taking it as it's dished out to me. After so many years, when are things going to get better rather than worse? :Do No:

    As for Jesus, we had a big scream fest (guess it was one-sided on my part - I screamed and hopefully he listened) Saturday as I was moving furniture in and out of my bedroom by myself, to do a positive thing by putting new carpet in. Basically it went...."Why the hell do I have to do all this stuff by myself, strain my back, etc. when I try to be so positive, make friends and do stuff for my friends and they can't seem to come help me for all of 5 minutes." No answer from the big man yet. I feel he was probably quite amused by my ramblings. How long does this have to go on??? :spank: :spank: :spank:

    Come on guys, need answers here, not just sympathy!!! :Dou: :laugh:

    So, sorry to take over Annie's thread, but like I said, it seems like Annie and I are going down the same road and I think both of us want to know what the heck to do to stop all the negative things from happening. :Do No:
  18. SharpSabre455

    SharpSabre455 Sloan says "It's Rare!"


    I certainly will keep you in my prayers. But, please remember to keep your head up and think positive. From my experience, and as hard as it may be, positive thinking will always pay off. Sometimes when I look back at my life, it's a miracle that I'm still alive.

    "If you think you are beaten, you are!"

  19. GKMoz

    GKMoz Gary / Moz

    Bank account

    Ladies,Anne & Dee Let me give an example !Here goes Lets say you ladies had some exceptionally bad financial needs. And people from this board said that they had the same problem years ago, But they heard that someone had an account set up for them to meet all there financial needs and they took advantage of that resource and now are on a good financial road. The average person would ask where do I get this( Someone ) to help me with my NEED ! ! Well ! WE have been telling you how YOU can get your NEEDS met. YOUR NEEDS are in an account stored for you alone ! the banker or loan officer is JESUS ! He has an account set up for you ! But you MUST ask with Hummility ( NOT cool hand Luke style ) fist in his face ! but with a humble spirit ask him to come into your life totally for his HONOR. and he will give you all HE gave two thousand years ago JUST for YOU ! ! ! As a personal story Has my life been a bowl of cherries? NO ! but like what has been said .How we are able to handle the rotten cherries in our lives is the difference. and that difference IS JESUS Gary/Moz
  20. Ken Mild

    Ken Mild King of 18 Year Resto's

    Annie, I have to echo again what Gary said above.

    I'm also hesitant to respond to you only because I anticipate a "yeah but.." response because of the place you are in right now. We all feel that way until we realize who is in the driver's seat and accept that we will do His will as best we can. You are falling into the trap, IMHO, of trying to "figure out" Jesus' ways. Why He won't do this or do that according to "your" needs and timetable. You will live a life of frustration with this perspective.

    Things will start turning around for you when you begin to recognize the "good" that the Lord has done for you and put less emphasis on all the bad things that happen to you.

    We all feel frustrated with Him sometimes and try to "figure out" his ways. He is managing humanity every second that goes by. His plan is no doubt beyond our capacity to comprehend. When we try to reason His ways, we fail every time.

    That is why He tells us to have faith. Faith is like the key to your Buick, if you don't have it, you can't get in. He is very clear with this statement.

    Start to thank Him (from your heart) for what good He does in your life. Pick up a bible and start at the beginning. I went 43 years without ever reading one word in the bible. Now I could blow my head off for waiting all that time. it is the most amazing, hopeful, miraculous and awe inspiring read anywhere in the world. Bar none.

    Good luck to you. We're all here for each other.

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