Asking for prayers for my father please

Discussion in 'Help From Above' started by Mister T, May 26, 2006.

  1. Mister T

    Mister T Just truckin' around

    Update on my dad

    Thanks everyone again for all your thoughts and prayers. My dad had a rough day today, it looks like he was a bit depressed when I went to see him earlier this afternoon.

    He sleeps a great deal, and I don't like to wake him up. In fact, I went yesterday, and watched him snore for about 45 minutes, didn't have the heart to wake him.

    His speech has improved somewhat, but the doctors figure he's about as good as he'll get, at least we can understand most of what he says. He still gets frustrated, since the circuitry from his brain to his vocal cords have been damaged, meaning that it's very hard sometimes to say what is on his mind.

    The long term prognosis is not very good, he'll likely never walk again, at best, perhaps a wheelchair or motorized scooter. Me and my brothers told him we'll hotrod it for him.

    His right side paralysis has not improved, nor is it likely to.

    The most basic things we men take for granted, he cannot do. Dad has never liked beards, and has never grown one, but his whiskers were growing wild until today. Today I gave dad his first shave in two weeks, wore out two blades. I think he really appreciated that.

    On a personal note, the past 12 days have been very tough, I didn't sleep very well for most of them. Getting back to normal now. I haven't worked since May 22, Thankfully my employer(s) are very understanding. Looks like I'm going back to work later this week.

    My mother also came to visit dad, (they divorced in 79), and both were glad for the time they spent together. Mom has no more animosity toward dad, and I'd like to think that dad feels the same way. My brother Ron from Calgary AB also came for a week, and he and mom spent lots of time visiting dad.

    As for me, all the past disagreements I had with my dad have suddenly evaporated, and I feel relief and sadness at the same time. Relief that my dad is still alive, sadness that we allowed negative feelings to fester for so long. I'm also thankful that I have a mulligan to repair my less than stellar relationship with him.

    I'm continually reminded of the song "In the Living Years" by Mike and the Mechanics, which pretty much sums up my relationship with my dad up until May 22 of this year.

    I have been telling dad that I do love him, and today he replied in kind, which brought tears to my eyes.

    Sorry for the long read, and I'll keep posting periodic updates.

    Thanks again for your caring and concern, my family appreciates it greatly.
  2. carl stevenson

    carl stevenson Well-Known Member


    I had a crappy day today, and was in a sour mood most of the day. When I read that you told your dad you love him and he replied, you have made my day better than it's been thus far!!! Wonderful...

    Sorry to hear it's not going well for him, but I am thrilled to hear you are able to put the past behind.

    I guess this means you are not out at the car shows these days. I found out just before church this morning that the Steinbach show was today, but it was too short notice to take it in.

    I will keep praying for you and your family.

  3. 69GS400s

    69GS400s own amusement ride!

    Hi Tom

    So sorry to hear about your Dad but the main thing is he's stable now.

    I went through this 9 years ago with my Dad and it is not very easy for anyone involved. He had a very bad stroke as well but He's still my Dad and He's still very much himself (but different) and we're all grateful for these past 9 years (he even "walked" me down the isle for my wedding 5 years ago).

    I'll PM you my work and home phone numbers if you want to talk.....
  4. Mister T

    Mister T Just truckin' around

    Hi Alan, sent you a PM.
  5. 65specialconver

    65specialconver kennedy-bell MIA

    tom,glad to hear your in a better state of mind.its hard to accept.i had the same reaction when i found out my dad was dealing with alzheimers.he lives with us now,and allthough he is not who he once was,hes still my dad & i love him every day i can.hang in there buddy :)
  6. Mister T

    Mister T Just truckin' around

    Alan Wander

    Alan, thanks for taking the time from your busy day to speak with me for as long as you did. I appreciate your tips and advice, even took notes afterward.

    You are a class act for doing so.
  7. 69GS400s

    69GS400s own amusement ride!

    ...My Pleasure Tom :beer Glad I could help

    Feel free to call whenever ....
  8. buickman71

    buickman71 da RED BEAST!

    my heart and prayers are with ya man....god works in weird ways but always for the better....take care of him and yourself
  9. droptop

    droptop Julian Pressley

    Tom....God bless you and your dad. I'll pray for him and you.
  10. bigjimray

    bigjimray New Member


    I am saying a prayer now, I recently lost both my parents, and understand how difficult this is for you and all.
    I hope everything works out for your father. I might add that to old coots like me, it is important to feel needed. He might need that too.

    God be with you and your father.
  11. lark678

    lark678 Well-Known Member

    Tom, Very sorry to hear about your dad. Remember exactly that! He is your dad and he knows your pain.God does too. I spent 28 years out there trucking and when all alone the Good LORD reminds us he's got a plan. I feel for you and you are getting prayers from our little church down here. Hang in there man, prayers are coming your way. :TU:
  12. Keith Seymore

    Keith Seymore Well-Known Member

    My Dad passed away last November. There is so much that could be said but I can't seem to pull my thoughts together.

    I have read your thread a dozen times without posting, so let me just say "prayers lifted up".

  13. Mister T

    Mister T Just truckin' around

    My dad is no longer suffering

    It is with a heavy heart that I make this most difficult post. :ball:

    My dad passed away earlier this afternoon from complications relating to the stroke he suffered three weeks ago today. :ball: :ball:

    Please keep our family in your thoughts and prayers over the next several days.

    Thank you once again for your concern.
  14. Mentalkase

    Mentalkase Desert Coonass

    I am sorry Tom,may God bless and keep your family strong in this time.
  15. Dana/Beth Andrews

    Dana/Beth Andrews Huc accedit zambonis!

    you have our deepest sympathies.

    D & B
    :( :(
  16. Annie Oakley

    Annie Oakley Well-Known Member

    My sympathies, Tom. Stay strong. You and your family will be in my thoughts.
  17. Floydsbuick

    Floydsbuick Well-Known Member

    I am saddened to hear of your loss Tom.
  18. stay strong Tom
    my family will say a prayer for you and yours
    stay in touch
    God bless
  19. jim

    jim Well-Known Member

    Sorry to here of your dad passing away and prayers to your family
  20. chryco63

    chryco63 14's or bust!

    Tom, sorry to hear of your loss. You and yours will be in my prayers.

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